Sep 04 2008
No call backs.
I met a guy though one of the online profiles I mentioned a few post ago. Nice looking man, 32, two jobs, one to pay the bills, one to have fun with, outgoing. We started trading messages, a few photos, some flirting. Just general getting to know each other kind of stuff. I felt a genuine interest on his part. This all progressed over a week or so. You come to enjoy or even look forward to that new message. Attention from a new source, and positive attention. You enjoy it, it’s fun. It even makes you feel like it might be someone you will meet for something other than something sexual. Plans were made for the coming weekend. Meeting for a drink, or something like. A meet face to face sort of thing before it went any further mentally.
And then it stops. No more messages. No more emails or texts. You send a few. “Hey is everything o.k.?” or the dreaded, did I do or say something wrong? ( and no I did not fall into that one). Now don’t get me wrong, this is nothing to be heart broken over. But it makes me wonder why? Was there something I said that you did not like? Did something happen to your phone, laptop, email? Someone sick and you can’t communicate? Do you just get your kicks off of this sort of thing?
I don’t get it. I try to be a really upfront kind of guy. If someone asks me if I like their new haircut, I will be honest with them, even if it is not what they want to hear. Now I am not going to be mean about it, but just honest. I would act the same in this situation. If I lost interest, I would say that, I would not just evaporate like I was never in the situation.
So am I too honest? Help me out here. Should I just leave out information in these situations? Do you like my new shirt? And I tell them it looks great, even if I am thinking to myself what a fool they look in it. We all know that’s not going to work. The minute you stop being yourself is the first step to something not working out, online, in person, where ever you might be.
So the search continues. I am not going to give up on the online aspect of all this, but I have to admit, so far I am really not impressed. Maybe I should open the search to more than local. Will I get a bigger variety of people to interact with? Or will it just add more assholes to the mix that I have to sift though to find someone to chat with and get to know?
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Don’t settle for less than you want. Try thinking outside of the box. Maybe take up a new hobby. At least you might find someone with the same interests as you. It gives you something to talk about to break the ice. My bf and I go fishing together all the time. we both found out the other loved it as a kid and rediscovered our childlike qualities together. Good Luck.