Nov 14 2008
Well that is just way too fast.
I have no idea what to do. Part of me wants to cut and run with this new guy and part of me really likes him and wants to see what comes of it. I feel like there is so much pressure and so much to think about, I just want to hide from it all.
Here is what has my brain doing flip flops. The new guy. He got married, to a woman at a young age, and has a son from this relationship. Obviously that relationship did not work, and he immediately went into a 7 year relationship with a man. When that ended, he turned around and went into another relationship with a man, which ended this past summer. He has been very honest and up front about everything, and said he does not want to move into anything serious, take his time, etc. Yet his actions are saying different. The main thing is this. He made a very serious invitation to go to Florida with him for Thanksgiving to spend the holiday with his mother and sisters. I met him two weeks ago yesterday, and to me, that seems kind of taking things fast. Am I wrong in that? It’s not like stopping by for dessert after the meal or something. It’s flying south, staying in his family’s home for five days, etc.
Yes, all this tells me that he really likes me. But, is he just itching to get back into a relationship? I am looking for someone to date, someone to get to know with the potential of down the road being together. I can’t even wrap my head around living with someone at this point. Don’t you become boyfriends before you include a romantic interest into your family holidays?
To compound all these thoughts, I have still had no communication from my friend I have mentioned, and honestly, it’s distracting me a great deal. So far I’ve been doing a good job of not letting that interfere with what I am doing with the new guy, but I feel like I am split. I don’t know what to think about first, or more. I have one side who calls several times a day and want’s me to go on trips with him and I have only known him for a few weeks. On the other side I have known my friend for a decade and I can’t get a “hey, I am doing alright” message from him.
But this blog is not about my friendships, it’s about my journey of meeting someone that I can potentially share my life with.
But does the journey have to happen on a damn race track?
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Okay, have been reading your blog from the beginning and all I can say is, although meeting the family is really fast and you might want to hold on that, I think the guy is pretty cool and the fact that he is being honest (and I mean totally honest from the looks of it) means a great deal. Just keep enjoying your time together and the things that you do together, don’t think too much of where you guys are now and what’s the next step, just enjoy the company and if it’s all good, everything will fall into place naturally. Labels are way overrated so whatever you have right now just enjoy and have fun with it. But I would really hold on meeting the family for Thanksgiving… wayyyyyy too soon. I would meet the son first before anybody else… you know what I mean?
But then again, I am no love expert, but if I were in your place, that’s what I would have done. Hope this helps
First of all, thanks for reading, it means a great deal to me.
I agree, he’s a good guy, but that is just too much too soon.
I hope to see some of him this weekend, so I will no doubt have more to share.