gaysettledown

I always find it interesting how much you can learn about a person after you are not seeing them anymore. I managed not to see the new guy at all this weekend, which was nice. It helped me to clear my head and not be tempted by anything. He left a few voice-mails, I think I will call him tonight, make it clear how I feel once and for all. We’ll go from there. This is someone who is fairly popular, has a great deal of friends, and I just see no need to be on the outside of that group and labeled as something I am not.

I’m also surprised by how many people considered us together. I had many questions about him from people this weekend. Most of them understood right away when I said that my interest level was not the same as his and that the chemistry was not there for me. Why pretend? We pretend with people enough in at our jobs or with family members you don’t want to hurt. Why do it with the person you choose to be with? Now I did have two guys who could not understand this concept, and one of them actually got nasty with me about it. He said I should be lucky that someone wanted to be with me, and that he came out and about every-night with the hope of finding just that. Sounds like he was projecting his wants and needs onto my situation. While I would like to be with someone, what’s the point if it’s not right.

Strange to me as well, were how many people saying I could do better. Not that they were back tracking, just that they were surprised I would settle for someone like him, and that looked like him. That was an unexpected ego boost, and I would love to see the men they think I should be with, because I honestly think the new guy is a good looking man. Certainly has his act together when it comes to his job and money.

I’m just trying to be adult with all this. I could just ignore him, but what’s the point. Not to mention that is not very kind. He’s not acting crazy like the last guy who kept my book and wanted to move in. He is being a little pushy, moving a bit fast and unable to take a hint, but he not crazy and he’s not a bad guy.

On another note, this all has a bizarre twist. I’ve mentioned that the new guy has a son, almost 18 years old. Well it turns out he is gay as well. Many mutual friends mentioned this to me over the weekend, not in a nasty or unkind way, just oh by the way sort of thing. Now the new guy was hell bent on me meeting his son, I wonder why he would leave that out. I mean we are all gay, no it’s no big deal, just clue me in. Or is that why you never mentioned it, because we are all gay and it’s no big deal.

Never dull around here, that’s for sure.

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